Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Frustrating, but worth it.

Baby B 2

I feel buried sometimes.

Under the load of paperwork.
The constant expenses.
The scheduling of home study visits, over-the-phone meetings, and doctor appointments.
Criminal clearances.
Immigration office phone numbers which make it nearly impossible to talk to a real human.

And the injustice of it all.

A dumb teenager can bring home a baby to any kind of rat hole. And no one asks questions. But I have to have a social worker out to the house to verify that we take out our trash? And schedule the fire department to come over and certify that it isn't a fire hazard?

We have 12 hours of mandatory online classwork to complete. Not a bad idea. But parents whose kids have been taken away from them? Do they have to take classes to get their kids back? Nope.

But it will all be worth it in the end.

No question about it.

Our as-of-yet-unknown baby is worth every mind-numbing minute of this process. We love him already.

And God will use this process to teach us, grow us, and mature us.

And when I think of the sacrifice Jesus made so that I could become a part of His family...

It puts it all in perspective.


Chrispy Critter said...

I will keep you in my prayers! Hang in there :)

Carrie said...

oh, how I appreciate your honesty... will be thinking about you all as you journey through this process.

amy and kevin said...

I (kinda) joke that fertility treatments were unbelievably physically invasive. The adoption process is completely emotionally/finanically invasive. EVERYONE is all in your business! I just keep reminding myself - like you are - that EVERYONE should be required to go through some of these hoops to be able to bring a baby home, even if it is their biological child. Those "hoops" are there for a reason, to ensure you are prepared and capable. But life has always been unfair :)

Ani said...

I can definitely sympathize. Especially the bit about immigration offices. And the part about it being completely worth it.

Praying for you :)

Kristen said...

praying for you!

i remember when my sister and brother in law went through their adoptions... it was crazy all the stuff they had to do when they were willing to give a baby a loving home and you see some of the situations that you stated - so frustrating. hang in there. it will be worth it when you get that babe in your arms :o)

ps love the brunette hair!

Anonymous said...

Hang in there! The paperwork really can be overwhelming but it's a great feeling when it's finally submitted and off of your shoulders. I remember thinking how crazy it all got - especially when I had a complete stranger come to my doctor appointment to notarize my doctor's signature for my medical forms for the adoption...What we will do in this process...:) -Marie in MI

Phillip said...

I think you should need a license to have a kid. Malik (my little brother) lives in a two bedroom apartment with 11 of his closest brothers, sisters, and cousins. You can't even keep track of everyone. His aunt does her best, but seriously... just a mess. Keep your chin up. Told Katie's mom you were adopting this morning and she wishes (along with katie and I) you guys nothing but the best. Katie's mom went through all of that before, and it is stressful.

Short Stop said...

I read this post several days ago and keep thinking of it and all that you're going through to bring your baby boy home to you. It reminds me to keep praying and trusting that God is working and moving in all of these ways to unite you with your son.

Chad and Sarah said...

Hi Jessica: I found you on Casey and the Cupcake Blog- We are adopting from Russia to- just WAITING on a referral, we've been registered in Pskov, Russia since July 2009. I would love to catch up with you-
Praying for peace during the paperwork stage. Ughhhh

ellignore(at)yahoo(dot)com said...

i'm a little confused, and i was hoping that you would answer a question for me: why are you going through a foreign adoption?
there are so many children in this country (albeit if you want a baby, you would probably have to adopt a child of color) that need loving families.
you point out that "a dumb teenager can bring a baby home to any kind of rat hole." and they do all the time all over this country.
in reading back through your blog, this is the one question that i didn't see an answer to, although I could have missed it.
Thanks, and God bless you!